How are your resiliency skills?

Resilience is one of my favorite topics. Mostly because of the experiences I’ve learned, grown from and now have as skill sets. Here’s a few pointers I can share with you.  

Resilience in today’s growing and changing world is a necessary skill to have.  Many of the qualities making up resilience can be developed and strengthened, which can improve your ability to deal with life’s setbacks.

Resilient people understand life is full of challenges.  While these challenges arise, resilient people stay open, flexible and willing to adapt to change. Resiliency is developed as one is aware of situations, their own emotional reactions and the behavior of those around them. Awares in these perspectives gives resilient people the opportunity to maintain control of the situation and problem solving/critical thinking, aka, thinking of a new way to tackle the problem. 

Here are qualities of Resilient People:

1. Sense of control.  Resilient people believe their actions have a direct correlation to the outcome.  This gives resilient people the capability to know trust and feel they have power in their choices that affect their situation, their ability to cope and their future. 
2. Problem Solving Skills. When crisis emerges, or challenges appear, resilient people are able to see the solution, put a plan in place and act out, follow through on the plan.  Resiliency is the skill to rationality and calmly look at the problem and envision a successful outcome. 
3. Strong Social Connection. When you’re dealing with a challenge having a strong social network is essential.  Talking about the challenges you are facing can be an excellent way to gain perspective, look for new solutions, or simply express your emotions.
4. Identifying as a survivor, not a victim.  When dealing with any potential crisis, it is essential to view yourself as a survivor or problem solver. Avoid thinking like a victim of circumstance, and escalating problems. Instead, look for those ways to resolve the problem. While the situation may be unavoidable, you can still stay focused on a positive outcome.
5. Being able to ask for help.  While being resourceful is an important part of resilience, it is also essential to know when to ask for help. During a crisis, people can benefit from the help of psychologists and counselors specially trained to deal with crisis situations. There are many options of resources to help you maintain a sense of focus and presence in times of challenge.